Sometimes a dream can forewarn events to come, but be misleading as to who it will happen to.

In the dream, I was at a family party with my husband.  His sister and her wife were there, as well as one of his brothers and his wife.  We were at the brother’s house.  Everyone was drinking.  Everyone else drank much more than me.  At one point, my husband decided he was tired and went to bed.  Then at some point the brother’s wife decided to go into the bedroom and lay down with my husband.  I didn’t think anything of it as I know she is very playful.  She was in there a little while and then left.  I had continued doing whatever it was I was doing, then it either became another night and another party or it was the same night but later and my husband woke up again and rejoined the party.  I found myself alone in the living room and began thinking about my husband and my sister-in-law.  I became suspicious that maybe there was more to what had happened than I originally thought. My husband happened to walk into the living room while I was alone.  I asked him, “What happened when your sister-in-law went in the bedroom with you?”  He hesitated and I became even more suspicious.  I asked him, “Did something happen between you two?  Did you sleep together?”  He immediately said “No!” and I believed that, but it still felt like something had happened.  I asked him, “Did something else happen?”  He again hesitated and I said, “Something obviously happened.  What was it?”  He paused, and then said something in an English accent that I did not understand.   I asked him to repeat himself.  He obviously didn’t want to say it, but he slowed himself down and said, but again in the English accent, ” She gave me a “something”.  I had never heard the term before and asked him what it meant.  He told me “Blowjob”.  I knew he hadn’t sought her out or tried to make anything happen, and it wasn’t actual sexual intercourse so I was relieved at first.  But then the more I thought about it, the more upset I became. Tears came to my eyes, and I said, “You let her touch you!”  I walked away from him to be by myself.

SIGNIFICANT SYMBOLS:

Party/Gathering- something done with others for fun, enjoyment, and the benefit of all. Corresponds to a celebration, a recognition or a reward. 

Drinking-may represent the inclination to escape or lose control.

Husband-actual husband or what he represents to me.  Suggests literal aspects of the relationship with one’s husband.

Brother-in-law- the relationship with the person themselves or a representation of an aspect of yourself.

House/Home-one’s personality or current situation or experience. The status of one’s state of consciousness.  For example, type of home or whose home can be a more clear indicator of what exactly is being addressed.   A friend’s home could indicate you are experiencing a current situation very similar to how you view your friend as living or thinking.  A haunted house adventure would indicate travelling through an experience which can be scary but is controlled.  An actual haunted house would indicate a state of consciousness filled with fears, thoughts, the past or that which keeps haunting one’s self. 

Sister-in-law- the relationship with the person themselves or a representation of an aspect of yourself.

Family-can correspond to various aspects of oneself. May represent aspects of oneself in relationship to that person or talents, qualities, or experiences that one associates with that person. A parental figure could indicate the need to look after one’s activities. Might indicate a literal suggestion or a warning in terms of the person’s welfare.

Bed/Bedroom-sexual activity, intimacy, and passion.  Sleep, rest, the unconsciousness.

Sleep (asleep)-associated with being unconscious to the external environment.  The internal feminine, waiting to be awakened.

English Accent- trying to make what you’re saying seem better or more appropriate than it actually is.

Sex-can correspond to creativity, love, reproduction, or self gratification. May indicate a close relationship or the need to develop a unified relationship.

I am participating in something I enjoy with others, possibly part of a celebration (party/gathering).  Within this group of people, there is a tendency to want to escape or lose control in a big way and they do this on a regular basis (Brother and sister in law and drinking).  I don’t do it to the extent they do, but I do participate (being in the house with them).  I use my logic to help me in this situation (husband), probably by not losing control, but at some point I let my logic take a break (sleeping on a bed).  When I do this, my logic (husband) allows itself to be persuaded into allowing a period of self-gratification (sexual act) that is inappropriate.  Not intentionally, but it still allows it because it is fun to escape and lose control.  When I become more aware again (wake up) I think that this is not as bad as it seems.  But the more I think about it, the more I think that perhaps it really is a bad thing and examine it more carefully.  My logic tries to make it seems like it is not as bad as it really is (English accent). But when I completely understand the extent of the damage from me allowing myself to lose control, I am quite upset and not sure how to fix what I have done.

Upon translation, this dream appears to be about me allowing myself to be overly self-indulgent to the point I actually cause harm to myself.  This is frustrating and discouraging as it can be quite a battle mentally to not over indulge when it comes to diet and food or even staying spiritual.  I have entered a period where I have been over indulging and this is causing me problems.  If I don’t retake control of my habits, I will reach a point where the physical and/or mental results from my excesses might seem unbearable or unchangeable.  This is a warning and I must heed it or pay the price.

When I woke up from this dream, I was very upset, thinking that it could possibly be  literal.  I considered recent circumstances and determined that my husband and I hadn’t been in any situation like this, so it seemed unlikely this was about something that had already happened.  Sometimes my dreams are prophetic, and warn me of events that might be coming.  I had to consider that this was something that might come up.   So far, nothing.

But information did come to me about someone else and the circumstances of their situation were very similar to those in the dream. About two to three weeks after I had this dream, my husband and I were told of an incident that happened with a couple we know.  One spouse had been gone for a long period of time in another part of the country and during that time had an inappropriate relationship with another person.  Not a full sexual relationship, but an inappropriate intimate relationship.  At first, the spouse downplayed what had happened and made it seem not so bad.  But come to find out, more had happened and it was definitely inappropriate and destructive to their marriage.  They separated.  In this case, the dream imagery was more literal but not exactly true to what occurred in real life.  I represented the spouse who was wronged, my husband represented the spouse who did wrong, and my sister-in-law represented the person who initiated the wrongdoing.  The rest of the dream is about the wronged spouse coming to the realization that something inappropriate really did happen and it was very harmful to their relationship.