This is a review dream.  It shows the situation that happened, as predicted by the Bobcat dream and the Tornado dream.  Then the aftermath.  It gives me the opportunity to review my actions and decisions so that in the future, I can make better choices in how I handle a questionable situation.

In the dream, I and my husband leave the house to attend a local fall festival for about an hour.  For some reason, we left the windows and doors open.  While we were gone, my husband’s brother, wife and kids arrived.  Finding the house open, they let themselves in and made themselves comfortable.  We came home and were surprised to find them still there but happy as we like visiting with them.  At some point in the evening, my husband and brother-in-law went out to the local bars and had a great time drinking.  They came home after the bars closed and happened to notice a pile of wood my neighbor had stacked in her yard.  Being stupid drunk, they decided to jump on the wood and then set it on fire.  I went outside just in time to see the end of this debacle.  They walked back in the house, laughing and talking about the stupid thing they had done. This infuriated me as I already have trouble with the woman.  This deliberate act of vandalism on their part was guaranteed to make matters worse. The next day we sat with my brother-in-law and his wife and began chatting.  At some point, my husband made a comment about the night before that made me very angry.  Before I knew it, I was chewing him out quite voraciously in front of our guests for his behavior the night before.  Everyone was very shocked by my behavior.  They’ve never heard me speak that way.  My husband said nothing and I walked out of the house to calm down.  I began doing something else and after a little bit my brother-in-law came out with his daughter.  He began chatting with me about nothing in particular.  But it helped to calm me down.  Then I chatted with his daughter about something that interested her and knew that I would be doing something with her later. 

The open windows and doors of the house indicate my being open to new opportunities or experiences and having the vision to recognize them as such.  My husband represents that aspect of myself that I believe to be like him.  This includes the good qualities and the bad qualities.  This part of myself is the responsible, capable, smart part of me.  But, unfortunately, it is also the loner, “I don’t care what you think”, side of me as well.  The fall festival indicates a time of my life where old ways are slipping away.  I celebrate this and try to enjoy what I am experiencing, as I grow into a more mature, more responsible individual.  As this process unfolds, my brother-in-law and his wife represent another side of myself-the more outgoing, social, career oriented side.  I am passing through a time where I am becoming more outgoing, social and career oriented, taking on more responsibility at work.  The neighbor represents my difficulty in controlling my reactions to others when I feel deliberately slighted.  The firewood represents the detritus I am getting rid of-behaviors and thoughts which ignite my reactions to others when I felt slighted.  As I become more outgoing, social and career oriented, I still have a problem with my “I don’t care what you think” attitude and make a problem worse by how I react when I feel slighted.  My yelling at my husband is my inner reaction to myself and how I feel-a great conflict over my natural reaction and my desire to be more mature and positive in any situation.  Finally, my going outside to the yard represents my walking away from what I consider the problem as I can do nothing else about it and trying to move onto something else.  Once I did this, I was able to view the situation in a more responsible and professional manner, as represented by my brother-in-law.  My niece represents a new endeavor which comes into my career as a result, but it doesn’t start immediately.

This dream and its symbology is complicated and actually a little difficult to translate.  When I deal with issues of my own ego, it can be difficult to admit that I have problem with anything.  The dream is telling me I am open to new experiences and endeavors at work, but still have a problem with my loner attitude and only wanting to do specifically what I am know I am supposed to do.  Even though in this work incident I wasn’t wrong in what I did, I didn’t handle the matter in the best way possible and only made matters worse by how I reacted.  Even so, the damage is probably minimal, and I will see a new aspect to my more responsible, professional side come out over time.

It is possible that this dream could also be prophetic about an incident that is yet to happen.  It is not a serious incident, but it could cause problems with the actual neighbor in the dream.  I hope not. I am trying to live by the philosophy to “cause no harm” if possible.